Happily Ever Afters Are Messy

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I can put together a pretty kickass pity party, I can really steep in it sometimes. I find myself quickly trying to turn that pity into a positive, cause who the hell doesn’t have struggles these days. I’ve met a huge amount of people in my line of work,  each one has a life struggle, major or not it impacts them in some way or another. What I’ve taken from these amazing poeple and thier life stories is that “Happily Ever Afters” are messy.

You never start out with the intention to lead a diffulcult life. We don’t grow up wishing for things to be tragic, so why do some of us find it diffucult to look on the bright side. I’ll never be certain what is in someone else’s head or how they interpret the world around them, if I had to make a guess, some of us got it wrong.  We are searching for a not so messy “Happliy Ever After” like the one in the movies. Spoiler alert! We ain’t ever gonna find it (not how we think that is). It’s like Santa, a great legend that brings us smiles and hope, but isn’t tangible. (Nothing against Santa, I love the holiday!)

Changing your mind set can be a powerful thing, now there is no need to lie to ourselves and say everything is coming up roses, but could, when the negitive recordings go off in our brains, it be possible to talk ourselves off the “my life sucks” ledge…

Could we train ourselves to be brighter side of life people…

Could that brighter side be the “Happliy Ever After” some of us think we are missing…

Can we be taught that happy is not perfect, it’s messy…

Can we learn to love our mess and think of it less as a struggle and more like a journey, not a journey that will end, but one that will continuly change…

Can we accept the moving pieces of change and be happy with that…

I vote yes! I would much rather live a life looking at a messy “Happily Ever After” than no “Happily Ever After” at all. Besides a pity party really eats into my much coveted free time.

It’s Sanity Not Vanity

So many of us question the importance of our appearance. We spend money on teeth whiting but walk around with a grease ponytail for days (nothing wrong with that), it’s unbalanced. Many folks slather on sunblock all summer long,” don’t want to ruin my skin” yet never moisturize their face for the rest of the year, also unbalanced. It’s a dirty little secret that most of us care about how we look, we’ve just been shamed into making less of an effort so as not to be deemed vain. It’s not vanity people, it’s sanity! You look good on the out side, I promise it will help you feel good on the inside.
What is to much effort? When have we gone to far with making ourselves look better? Open up any tabloid magazine and you will see the pages filled you celebrity’s who have taken “looking good” to far. This is NOT what I’m talking about.
I teach my clients simple beauty… Fast, affordable ways to get you looking your best and out the door in the morning. It takes 10 days to form a beauty habit, I dare all of you to start using a face cream (one suitable for your skin type) the fine lines and dark spots will soften, making the effort of looking beautiful easier everyday. Yup, it’s that easy, squeeze lotion in hand, rub on face, 10 sec your done. Yes Timed it! I promise that 10 sec will save your skin and help maintain that youthful glow.

Don’t give up. Don’t put it at the bottom of the todo list. The smallest bit of time on yourself can make a huge impact. I am a busy Mom. I do run a successful business 60 hours a week, I never leave the house with out putting on a bit of concealer and mascara. I am not crazy and I don’t have a nanny. I take the 3mins for myself to do something that makes me feel confident and beautiful. I do it with out regret and it feels good. Join me, leave your comfort zone and add something to your beauty routine. Try it for the ten days, if it’s a “no go” then you can say you tried. Don’t give up though, find a new beauty thing to try. You can do this!